Waving the White Flag

I’m really bummed to write this, finally, but I have to admit to myself that, at least for now, I’m

I just have zero time available to write anymore, and though I’m really sad about it, I am giving up for now.  I love writing.  It is an outlet for me.  I love sharing, and writing about Harlow, even if it is just something I can look back on to remember her at this age.  The reality of the situation, though, is that I can’t do it right now.  The “Terrible Two’s” are no joke, and things have been difficult since the move.  Harlow has mostly acclimated, but NOT when it comes to night-time, and naps, and… well, basically all my free time.  So, I’ll keep working on it, and working to get back here, because… I love it.  But for the meantime, I’ll miss you, Baby Steps.  Hope to see you soon.

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41 Days

41 Days.

Since there have been 41 days since my last post, here are 41 random likes/facts/things I’ve been up to/etc.

1.       I’ve been planning on writing a post on how to start your own mommy group for over a month now.  Stay tuned.  No, really, I promise it is coming.

2.       We’ve had Abbey for 5 whole years!  Her “new home birthday” was on May 1st.


The night we found her in a cornfield.

3.       Harlow is really into stickers.  It can be slightly disturbing, depending on the stickers.


4.       We had a baby turtle visit us.  I named him Snappy.


5.       Harlow & I started campaigning to be Harley Davidson’s first Mother/Daughter models.  We’re still waiting on the call.


6.       FOUR of my friends had babies.

7.       Harlow and I have started having lunch dates after gymnastics.  I love it.


8.       We met my in-laws’ new puppy, Pepper.  Abbey was excited as could be… Pepper had to warm up a bit.


9.       My friend passed away unexpectedly.  Honestly, I’m not going to write much about it right now, mainly because I still can’t wrap my head around it, and I get desperately sad when I think about it (which seems to be constantly).  He was doing well.  Making plans.  If you would like to know more about him, this is a lovely article written up about him and his sweet family.  If you wish to contribute, please do so here.  He was quite honestly, one of the best, most genuinely nice, funniest people I’ve ever had the privilege of knowing.  The world lost a good one.


10.   Harlow & I visited a really great place called Country Dairy when we stayed with my parents a few weekends ago (Chris worked & worked on the house).  Harlow loved the cows!


11.   Pretty sure Harlow is going to play soccer someday since about .25 seconds after this photo was taken, she was halfway across the field during my niece’s soccer game.  Not embarrassing at all, running out there to get her amid the chuckles of the spectators.  ;)


12.   This is Harlow’s reaction to telling her I need to put her hair up.  Admittedly, the video is better…


13.   While at my parents’ house, I got bitten by something and it was insane!


14.   This happened…


15.   I tried to get a photo of Harlow wearing a Minnie Mouse shirt whilst playing with her Little People Disneyland, but it just… didn’t work out.


16.   Last weekend we had TWO toddler birthday parties.  It was so much fun, and so much cake!

17.   I love this shirt.


18.   My favorite/only(?) harmonica player (a local that tours with bands like The Verve Pipe) got married and his bride’s dress was incredible. (Posted on Facebook)


19.   I finally decided to have a full-body skin cancer screening.  I figure I’m 36, have very light complexion, and have been burned multiple times in my life (pretty much at least once a summer, despite my best efforts, some of them really bad).  Well, this happened.  Results and stitches out in 2 weeks.


20.   This is cute

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22.   Harlow was “Sheriff for the Day” at her daycare… just like Grandpa!

Her hair is always so crazy by the end of daycare.

Her hair is always so crazy by the end of daycare.

23.   There was a multiple showing situation this past week to try to rent out our house (rental) so we had to vacate (past toddler bedtime) for a couple of hours.  She did amazingly well with the help of chips and salsa.  (Although I think it was a bad idea, tummy/sleep-wise… she ended up sleeping with me after being up a lot in the night.)


24.   Harlow has been REALLY into picking out her own clothes again.  Here are the latest two.


25.   I got some flowers in an old epoxy powder container (gotta love working with scientists!)


26.   I also have a Life Hacks post in the works… I have a couple fun new-to-me ones to share!

27.   I want this http://www.sephora.com/up-close-beautiful-30-day-complexion-starter-kit-P387933?skuId=1641885

28.   And this  http://www.sephora.com/beloved?icid2=bd_beloved_us_050515_image

29.   And this http://www.sephora.com/mia-skin-cleansing-system-P285163?skuId=1311976

30.   And this  http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/inc-international-concepts-tie-dye-blouson-maxi-dress?ID=2115560&CategoryID=5449&LinkType=#fn=DRESS_STYLE%3DSun%20Dress%26SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DCasual%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D195%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D39

31.   I’m intrigued by this https://www.dollarshaveclub.com/blades

32.   I am really in the market for a cute, bright summer shoe.  Maybe these? http://www.6pm.com/jellypop-ferrell-orange

33.   I just bought Harlow a new swimsuit (she has 2 already… no judging) and another pair of swim shoes. (In my defense, one pair of shoes and one suit stay at daycare for water days.)

34.   I really need to get some sort of beach shade for this summer.  Like this, maybe: http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/store/product/total-sun-block-beach-shelter/1040842646?skuId=40842646?utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=BingAds%20label%3DFurniture&mcid=PS_bing_nonbrand_furniture_&creative=6136888777&device=c&matchtype={MatchType}

35.   I never would have described myself as a Taylor Swift fan, but music keeps coming up on my Echosmith Pandora radio station that I think, “Oh, I like this!  I wonder who it is?” and it is always Taylor Swift.  Color me shocked.

36.   I need a massage.  I haven’t had one since I was, like, 22 or something stupid like that.  I know it was before I was married.  The space from the base of my skull to either of my shoulders is so crunched up and has been for… well, since pregnancy/having Harlow?  A hot tub would be nice, too.

37.   Harlow has been asking non-stop for weeks to go to the beach.  “This summer we go to beach?”  Yes, honey, we will.

Ready to go, mom!

Ready to go, mom!

38.     We have three new baby birds in the rose bush by our patio door.


39.   I keep coming up with ideas for small businesses.  I really need to figure out how to bring at least one of them to life.

40.   It makes me happy when Harlow asks for tofu for dinner.

41.  Speaking of dinner, a while back I made (packaged) tortellini with “meat” sauce, and some biscuits on the side.  The tortellini was A). disgusting, and B). enough for about 1/2 a meal, and both my husband and I ate it.  There was a lot of the sauce and biscuits left over, so for lunch the next day, I made Italian Biscuits and “Gravy”.  It was delicious.


Well, alright!  Now you’re all caught up again (assuming you made it to the end of this long, somewhat boring post).  Have a great weekend!

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What I Did This Weekend – {April Edition}

By my very scientific calculations (finger & toe counting, mainly) it has been approximately 21 days since I last popped in.


So… what have I been up to in the last 3+ weeks?  Oh, man… lots! 


Harlow had three sessions of gymnastics. 

The Week of the Child was held at Harlow’s school.  She had Purple Day, Favorite Cartoon Character Day, Silly Hair Day, Super Hero Day (which I didn’t do anything for…), and Pajama Day.  It was pretty fun!


Purple Day & BIG smiles!


Dressed as Minnie Mouse… she was unamused that morning.


Wicked Faux-Hawk for Silly Hair Day!


Pajama Day!

I have about 76 grocery store trips under my belt (with another one on the books for today).

 We attended Harlow’s friend’s birthday party… gorgeous weather for it!


We finally got to break out the spring clothes! (for one day… then it snowed…)

I drank a LOT of sugary coffee (yes, I know I need to stop…). 

 I started eating salads this week(!) which is huge for me, since I’m a terrible vegetarian…  Cheese and carbs, baby!  My body doesn’t even know what to do with all those vegetables! 

 Erm…   I’ve watched plenty of Netflix. (Kimmy Schmidt, anyone?)

 Harlow did some coloring (and ate a crayon while I turned my back for 2 minutes to vacuum a room… guess I just can’t clean… darn.).


 Let’s see… we bought a house, and went for a couple of walks around the neighborhood.

 Wait, what?  Oh, yeah… we bought a house!

I mean… we haven’t moved yet or anything, but we digitally signed offers that were accepted by the current homeowner, so… yeah.  I’m excited and very, very anxious.  I hear that’s normal?  I’m most looking forward to the gorgeous walk-in closets and the amazing back deck.  I do have a bunch of photos, but since it is filled with the current owner’s personal belongings, I did not feel they were appropriate to post.


Soothing photo of Harlow picking flowers… breathe…

Speaking of anxiety… I’ve been the not-so-proud owner of BUNCHES of it for the last few months.  I touched on it a while back, but it has not let up.  I’m hoping it is mostly because of the BIG decision to buy a new house and all the uncertainties that come along with that… and that once we are moved in, I’m back to myself.  Time will tell.

Tell me!

What do you do to decompress when things start seeming unmanageable? 

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Easter 2015

Happy Easter!

Yesterday, the Easter Bunny visited our town, so after our non-nap (Harlow jumping around in her crib for 1.5 hours) we packed up and went downtown to meet up with a friend to see the Easter Bunny.  Harlow had zero interest in meeting the main event (but to be fair, it was a creepy looking bunny…) and she also wanted nothing to do with riding the carousel, so we just watched her friend, Ethan, and his mommy ride it.  We lasted about 20 minutes, total, before heading back home.  Which is why I have no photos of the actual outing… just the craziness before.  Oh, well!  Such is life in the world of a toddler.


Lunch fit for a Bunny!


Runaway bunny!


Hop, hop, hop!

Today we’re spending a low-key Easter Sunday here at the Baby Steps household.  The Easter Bunny visited us, and left some baskets and some eggs to find, but the rest of the day will just be a typical Sunday, just with bunny(ish)-shaped pancakes instead of normal ones…




Even Abbey got a gift from the Easter Bunny!



What is in a 2 year old girl’s Easter Basket?

Easter 20152 sippy cups, both found at Target, but I couldn’t find them online.

An Earth’s Best pouch

A cute raincoat

An Easter Book

A pair of $1 Minnie Mouse socks (dollar section of Target)

Have a fantastic Easter Sunday!

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It’s Been A While…

Well, heeeeeyyyy!!! Long time, huh?  So… what is new?  A lot has happened in the last week or two.  Hopefully I can remember even half of it! First up, Harlow’s second birthday party!  It was an absolute blast.  Everyone had a great time, and she loves her new kitchen!  She has been playing with it nonstop since the party!

Some other things that have happened… we had Harlow’s 2 year checkup.  She’s doing great.  She’s 22lbs, 14oz (3rd percentile for weight) and 34in (60th percentile for height).  Again, the doctor says she’s skinny, but he’s not worried because she always has been, and she’s really healthy.  She’s far exceeding some of her physical and verbal milestones, which is fantastic. She’s a total fashionista.  She loves putting on her Cabbage Patch Doll’s shoes and picking out her own clothes & hair accessories!

Oh, the other exciting thing is that we’ve been off bottles now for 10 days!  It hasn’t been a total breeze, but it hasn’t been nearly as bad as I expected!  We’ve had three really rough nights, but other than those three, she has actually slept through the night on her own! At her doctor’s appointment, I mentioned that she still had one bottle per night, and he really put me on the spot by telling Harlow directly, three times, that she was too big for bottles and she was to have no more bottles!  I was really irritated at him at the time, (I felt like I had to act on it immediately or send her mixed signals about it) especially during our 3 hour nighttime ordeal, but it has gone over pretty well, and I realize now that I probably needed that push. I had a blank card laying around that had a picture of a Fairy on it, and wrote out a message from the Bottle Fairy about how the Bottle Fairy had been told by Harlow’s doctor that Harlow was a big girl and didn’t need her bottles anymore, so the Bottle Fairy was going to take them and give them to a baby who did need them.  Then (luckily) I had a stuffed giraffe (it is the kind that is filled partially with rice or something, and you can put it in the microwave to make it warm and cozy and fragrant) that I hadn’t given her yet, so I left that from the Bottle Fairy.


So, basically, even after so much time away, there isn’t a lot of new stuff going on.  I think I mentioned we are looking for a new house, so we’ll be touring homes soon (today, actually) but… yeah.  That’s about it.  Aren’t you happy you are all caught up?  I’ll leave you with a couple of random photos, since I need to go get Harlow who has been jumping around in her crib for an hour instead of napping…  *sigh*  That girl… I wish I had 1/8th of her energy.


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Birdwatching at dinner.

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Two Years Ago Today…

Two years ago today I woke up just after midnight, certain that the Mexican food I’d had for dinner had been a bad idea.

4 days

4 days before Harlow’s birth.

Two years ago today, after 9 hours of pain, I finally started to admit that maybe I was in labor, (but probably not) and started timing the contractions… 4 minutes apart, lasting 1 minute.  I called my doctor, apologetically, explaining the Mexican food situation.  She told me I had to go to the hospital.  Now.  I called Chris to come home from work (I had insisted he go in… of course I wasn’t in labor…), and texted my boss that I wouldn’t be in after all, since I had texted him earlier that I wasn’t feeling well and would be in after lunch.

Two years ago today, our birth plan all but flew out the window as things happened pretty quickly, and almost none of the grand ideas on our 3(!) birth plans felt important anymore.  It was just a blur of lovely pain, and breathing, and holding hands, and breathing, and eye contact… and then that sweet, wonderful man with the epidural.

Two years ago today, the baby’s heart-rate dropped into the 60’s.  The doctor and nurses said we had to get the baby out.  Now.  I pushed twice, and saw the look the doctor and nurse gave each other… astonishment that it was happening so fast.  I pushed once more.

Two years ago today, I heard someone say it was a girl.  I heard my husband’s voice break as he said out loud the name we had chosen for a girl.  Harlow Cassidy.  (Good thing, since we hadn’t settled on a boy’s name!)

it's a girl

Two years ago today, at 5:40pm, I fell in love more completely than I ever imagined possible.  I had no way of knowing then, and I suspect I still don’t completely know, the depth of my devotion to my daughter.  How much joy she brings me.  How much patience I have to muster sometimes.  How little sleep I can get and still push through.  How worried I can be about her.  Her health, her happiness, her development.  How much she makes me laugh.

Two years ago today, we became a family.


Happy birthday to my sweet, independent, fearless, stubborn, happy, smart, beautiful daughter.  You make each day more joyful than the last.



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St. Patty’s Day Baby

Today is my husband’s birthday.

That makes me happy.

That is all.

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